An Open Letter To My Husband

Dear Husband,

I know that I have said this to you everyday since the birth of our daughter. Looking at you with tears in my eyes after a long day, in my sweats, on the couch, breast milk stains all over me, and hair in a messy bun. But I will say it again. Thank you for all that you do.

Before she was born, we didn’t fart in front of each other. We did not discuss what we did in the privacy of the bathroom. You laughed at me when I was pregnant and gassy. I was nervous about pooping during labor in front of you. I mean, everyone likes to scare you with that fun tid bit.

In fact, when we talked about my labor, you were clear that you wanted to stay above my hip area. That you didn’t want to see too much. In you words, “keep it sexy”. And I agreed. Let the doctors do their job, you don’t need to see all that!

Then I went into labor, and everything went out the window! You saw me in my rawest form, and I didn’t care. Either did you. After it was over, you told me how proud of me you are. How you loved me even more. How thankful you are for what I did for our family.

You encouraged me to pass gas, when I was constipated from all of the pain killers I was taking. You no longer laughed when I farted, you cheered!

Not only were you my supportive husband, you were now my caretaker. Because of my c-section, I couldn’t bend over. So you helped me wash my legs in the shower, put on my oh so sexy disposable underwear, lotion my legs and then help me back into my sweat pants. All without making me feel self conscious.

When our baby cries, you hold us both. Instead of judging me for crying with her, you let me be vulnerable. You look at me and tell me how great of a mother I am, how everything is going to be okay. You make me laugh at myself, when I let the hormones take over. Which is much needed at least once a day.

I was nervous about you seeing me like this. That maybe this would change things between us. Indeed it has. This child has brought us closer. She has shown me that your love for me is unconditional. It’s not about how I look, or about being a perfect wife or even the perfect mother. All of these things I was scared to show you, you saw, and you love me even more.

So thank you. Thank you for lifting me up when I am down. Thank you for knowing when I need a hug, or a compliment. Thank you for being my teammate.

Love always,

Your teammate for life


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  1. This was so sweet. I can only imagine how he felt reading this . Having children definitely shifts your paradigm & I’m so happy it brought you guys closer💕

  2. Oh I just cried so much….. and I’m at a restaurant…now with sunglasses on! Love you both to the moon and back— you compliment each other so well. Your love made the most beautiful baby girl 💗 So happy to be a part of your lives xxxxooo

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